A lot of leaders are terrified of delegating. They know they could do it better. They know they could do it faster. And honestly, sometimes they're right.
But holding on keeps you stuck. It stops you from growing in your own role, and it eats your time.
Why new managers hold on
I see three reasons over and over.
It feels faster. If you do it yourself, you don't have to explain it, and you don't have to double check someone else's work.
You like your way best. You have a process, it works, and you're not sure you're open to someone doing it differently.
You feel bad. You don't want to dump a pile of work on your team. But here's what I usually find: the task isn't outside their job description. It probably should have lived with them all along. When you hold onto it, you're doing them a disservice, because you're not teaching them new skills or trusting them to get it done.
How your strengths show up
Your CliftonStrengths can tell you a lot about why you hold on.
Responsibility and Achiever hold on tight. You want it done right, and you want to be the one doing it.
Developer delegates to help people grow, but can slide into micromanaging because you want them to reach their full potential.
Command hands things off fast, but can skip the context.
Empathy feels bad adding more to someone's plate.
In general, people high in relationship building strengths have a harder time letting go. And here's something to remember: you can coach and train all you want, but people learn when they have space to figure things out, put it into practice, and sometimes make mistakes.
The four part handoff
1. Define what done looks like. "Pull a list of competitors" is wide open. "Pull a list of 15 competitors with their name, pricing, and locations, so we can compare our pricing" is clear. Share the purpose, and be specific about the information you need.
2. Set the deadline. "I need it by next Friday."
3. Add a check in before the deadline. "I'd love to see a rough draft this Friday, and the final version next Friday." Break bigger projects into small deliverables, like an outline first. It keeps you in the loop without hovering.
4. Name the decisions they can make alone. What needs your approval, and what can they explore on their own? A little freedom lets people get creative and see how their work feeds the bigger picture.
What to delegate first
Start with repeatable work that has a clear finish line and stretches someone's strengths. Look at your day to day. What could someone else start owning?
When it comes back wrong
Coach it. Don't take it back. Anyone doing something for the first time deserves more than one chance. Talk through what went well, where the opportunity was, and what you'd like to see next time. Be kind and be clear. And at every check in, tell them what they're doing well, so they keep doing it.
What this looks like in real life
I watched a leader managing a location get completely overwhelmed by the day to day. So they started handing off responsibilities, little by little, that naturally fit their team's work.
First, they showed the process. They even recorded videos of themselves doing the work so their employee could refer back to it. Then they did it together. Then they let the employee do it on their own.
Yes, mistakes were made. They talked about what to improve right away. The second time, the employee did it perfectly.
It takes a little patience. But it frees up your time and energy for the bigger picture, and your team grows into a bigger part of the business. It's a win for everybody.
Kirsten
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